Proving Aristotle Wrong, Psychology Style
First, the good intention part. With the information overload we usually experience, our brain finds it difficult to thoroughly process each bit of info as it comes. Hence it resorts to a veritable laundry list of mental shortcuts or rules of thumb to make judgments and attributions. This way, time is saved and less mental effort is expended. Quite adaptive.
The hitch is, these heuristics, called cognitive biases, often lead to serious errors.
While you may want to believe otherwise, you can't deny that you find it difficult to reason in a perfectly logical way all the time.
Remember the last time you underestimated, grossly, how long it would take you to complete an assignment? That's planning fallacy, a cognitive bias pertaining to decision making. There are several others, pertaining to social attribution and memory, besides statistical or probability/belief based fallacies.
The cognitive biases we fall prey to most often (read: the names I found fancier than the rest) are:
1. The Semmelweis reflex- Rejecting out of hand any information without much inspection just because it contradicts a previously held idea or norm. So, established paradigm wins over new information. Something like "if the facts don't fit the theory, throw out the facts."
2. Self fulfilling Prophecy or the Pygmalion effect- Remember the sculptor who created a beautiful statue and later fell in love with it? That was Pygmalion. Alright, this is a prediction that causes itself to become true due to the very fact that the prediction was made. If your teachers are made to believe you are an "intellectual bloomer", you will turn out to be so, as this research proved.
Keep it in mind the next time you are tempted to call your boyfriend an ass.
3. Deformation Professionnelle- The tendency to examine issues from the vantage point of one's own profession only, at the cost of other possibly relevant perspectives. The classic example is the joke "when all you have is a hammer, every problem looks like a nail".
4. Confirmation Bias- The tendency to seek out information and people who reinforce our beliefs and preconceived notions. An example could be choosing that newspaper which follows the same political ideology as yours or favouring a yea-sayer subordinate. If one is not careful, one may hence miss out on important information that is deliberately screened, and make catastrophic decisions.
5. Reactance- The tendency to do the opposite of what one is instructed to do by others because of the perception that they are trying to restrict one's freedom. This is where reverse psychology comes from: a technique involving the advocacy of a belief or behavior that is opposite to the one desired, with the expectation that this approach will encourage the subject of the persuasion to do what actually is desired: the opposite of what is suggested.
6. Fundamental Attribution Error- The Big Brother of all cognitive biases, it is the tendency to overestimate the impact of dispositional factors (as opposed to environmental factors) on other's behaviour. Instead of the many external circumstances that could have led to the act, we choose to attribute it to the convenient "because he is that kind of a person." A closely related error is the 'actor-observer effect' due to which we have a tendency to attribute dispositional causes to others' behaviour but external causes to our own. Like 'you fell; I was pushed'.
There are hundreds others out there, and one way to minimise their effect is to remain open to diverse opinions and look up statistical figures when in an uncertain situation. No, being aware of these biases doesn't help much. Kahnemen, the leading authority in this field has said, "My intuitive thinking is just as prone to overconfidence, extreme predictions, and the planning fallacy as it was before I made a study of these issues."
So there's only so much one can do about it. Specially if one is intelligent.
Yes, Kahneman's studies showed that more cognitively sophisticated participants showed larger bias blind spots i.e. the assumption that others are more susceptible to thinking errors!
Even knowledge doesn't count much as more than 50% of Harvard, MIT and Princeton students gave incorrect answers to a simple question designed to test whether they could keep their cognitive biases at bay.
The Hurdles Parents Face When Hiring A Private Tutor
Different parents decide to hire a private tutor for different reasons. Some parentshire a tutor when their child is already performing well at school, and just want to do even better. Many parents however hire a tutor because their child is struggling in one or more areas, and often has been for some time.
No matter how long your child has been struggling at school, one thing has become very clear. The longer the child is left to struggle without the right support, the greater the problem becomes, and the more difficult it becomes to intervene. This is for two reasons, both of which I feel that all parents should be aware of.
The first is because of the cracks in their skills foundation. If your child has been lagging behind for many years, then trying to catch up quickly can be like trying to build a new house on a poor foundation; the new additions are not supported properly and crumble too easily under the slightest pressure. This is why any good tutor should aim to identify where those foundational weaknesses are precisely, and work on strengthening them as a priority above all else.
The second and most common reason is because of the foundational beliefs that a child develops about their own abilities. No matter what we as adults verbally explain to our children, they tend to take things very personally. When they see that their peers around them seem to be able to 'get it' whilst they don't, it often leaves them with the feeling that "I'm dumb" or "I'm just not good enough at this and I can't do it." These experiences can cause humiliation, shame and a huge gap in their confidence.
As kids get older, the last thing they want is for their parents (or anyone else for that matter) to be focusing on their weak spots. You may notice that when you try to speak to your child about their struggles, they may become shy, irritable, frustrated or even angry and do everything they can to avoid mum or dad focusing on it. This often causes mums and dads a lot of frustration as well, which only further serves to make the situation worse. In fact, in many instances, mum or dad is knowledgeable enough to be able to help their son or daughter with their schoolwork, but the irritability and frustration factor pose the biggest hurdle, and can often lead to a feeling of helplessness.
If this situation is one that you can associate with, the first thing you need to be aware of is that you are not alone. This is very common. The frustration you may experience is normal. The helplessness however is unnecessary, as now you can rest assure that you've found the right help.
You know that your son or daughter does have their particular strengths, is very capable in some areas, and is certainly not 'dumb'. You want them to be able to see how capable they really are but you don't know how to show it to them because the reality is that their experiences at school are not painting the picture you wished they could see. You want the best for them but your attempts to help them either don't help as much as you wished they could, or, in some circumstances, may just add fuel to an already out of control fire.
A lot of parents however feel a bit reluctant to express just how much of a worry this whole situation is to them out of fear of not being understood. I can't guarantee miracles, but if you talk to me about it openly, one thing I can guarantee is that I will understand. I am an experiences school teacher with four university degrees and own a tutoring company where I train other tutors how to be the best tutors for goodness sakes, and yet I still choose independent tutors for my own son for these very reasons. When you want the best for your child, you can't always be objective and rational. That's an unfortunate side effect of being a caring parent. It doesn't mean that you've failed to support them properly - it means that you've succeeded in caring enough to want to make a positive difference. By looking for the right tutor, you've also succeeded in knowing what it will take to get that difference happening.
THE BIGGEST HURDLES WHEN STARTING TUITION
Here's the problem we face. By the time many parents decie to hire a tutor, there is a chance that their child is already well aware that they are struggling, and probably not feeling too good about that. For that reason, there is a chance they may see that getting a tutor is a representation of their failure. They're hearing your voice of logic and reason explaining that everything will be okay, but meanwhile their inner voice is saying "you're such a disappointment now that you need a tutor." For some students, having their first session with a private tutor is almost like having to see a medical specialist for a really humiliating disease. It can be embarrassing and very disempowering for a vulnerable young mind that is at a stage in their life where the way their self-esteem develops will affect them for years to come.
For that reason, the way that your son or daughter views the idea of getting a tutor is crucially important. As I'm sure you've already figured out, it's important that they don't perceive the process as a punishment or an indication of inadequacy. Whilst I can't tell you a perfect formula for how to approach this, what I can tell you is based on the experiences we've had feedback from with hundreds of parents, all in very similar situations to you.
WHAT NOT TO DO
When many parents reach the point where they finally decide that getting a tutor is the right way to go, they actually take the worst possible option available to them. In fact, many of the clients who come to us do so to repair the damage that has already been done by taking this option; they took their child to a class based tutoring centre.
Tutoring centres (or coaching colleges as they are often called) are typically populated by student's that come from cultural backgrounds where obtaining the best possible mark is a mandatory requirement. They often come from families with unreasonably high expectations, where nothing is ever good enough. Either that, or they are gifted students themselves with very high intellectual capacities who attend coaching colleges because they need extra stimuli as they are not being challenged enough at school.
If your child is already outstandingly competent and performs better in a competitive environment, then by all means consider a tutoring centre. Where the student is struggling however and may feel insecure about their weaknesses being on display to those around them; imagine the irreparable damage it has on their self esteem when they are placed in an environment where the kids around them are even more 'high achievers' than at school, so comparatively, they feel even 'dumber'. That is the unfortunate reality of placing a struggling child in among students who are competitive performers and high achievers. It typically does more harm than good.
The reason it is appealing to some parents however is that because of the class approach, tutoring centres can be a cheaper option. By the time that the parents come to us however, the first part of the process is to try to undo the negative view that their child has developed about tutoring thanks to the self-esteem deteriorating effect of the more competitive environment.
The other mistake that parents often make is the value they place on solving the problem. The situation described above is often obvious to many parents who realise that one-on-one in a familiar setting such as the home is the most effective option. Many well-meaning mums and dads that are struggling to keep up with the cost of living, decide to opt for someone 'cheap' and end up with someone who simply doesn't know what they're doing.
If the tutor has the wrong approach, the wrong personality match or does not understand the way in which your child learns best, it is also likely to have disastrous consequences. Just when the student gets their hopes up that maybe, finally, someone will be able to come along that can help them overcome their hurdles, if they end up with the wrong tutor, the only message they get is that there really is no hope for them after all.
You and I can see the more rational picture of course, which is that there is always the option to get another tutor. For a young vulnerable mind however facing a very delicate situation they take very personally, their early experiences with a private tutor can either bring them out of their shell if you get the right tutor, or bury them in it even deeper if you get the wrong one.
No matter how long your child has been struggling at school, one thing has become very clear. The longer the child is left to struggle without the right support, the greater the problem becomes, and the more difficult it becomes to intervene. This is for two reasons, both of which I feel that all parents should be aware of.
The first is because of the cracks in their skills foundation. If your child has been lagging behind for many years, then trying to catch up quickly can be like trying to build a new house on a poor foundation; the new additions are not supported properly and crumble too easily under the slightest pressure. This is why any good tutor should aim to identify where those foundational weaknesses are precisely, and work on strengthening them as a priority above all else.
The second and most common reason is because of the foundational beliefs that a child develops about their own abilities. No matter what we as adults verbally explain to our children, they tend to take things very personally. When they see that their peers around them seem to be able to 'get it' whilst they don't, it often leaves them with the feeling that "I'm dumb" or "I'm just not good enough at this and I can't do it." These experiences can cause humiliation, shame and a huge gap in their confidence.
As kids get older, the last thing they want is for their parents (or anyone else for that matter) to be focusing on their weak spots. You may notice that when you try to speak to your child about their struggles, they may become shy, irritable, frustrated or even angry and do everything they can to avoid mum or dad focusing on it. This often causes mums and dads a lot of frustration as well, which only further serves to make the situation worse. In fact, in many instances, mum or dad is knowledgeable enough to be able to help their son or daughter with their schoolwork, but the irritability and frustration factor pose the biggest hurdle, and can often lead to a feeling of helplessness.
If this situation is one that you can associate with, the first thing you need to be aware of is that you are not alone. This is very common. The frustration you may experience is normal. The helplessness however is unnecessary, as now you can rest assure that you've found the right help.
You know that your son or daughter does have their particular strengths, is very capable in some areas, and is certainly not 'dumb'. You want them to be able to see how capable they really are but you don't know how to show it to them because the reality is that their experiences at school are not painting the picture you wished they could see. You want the best for them but your attempts to help them either don't help as much as you wished they could, or, in some circumstances, may just add fuel to an already out of control fire.
A lot of parents however feel a bit reluctant to express just how much of a worry this whole situation is to them out of fear of not being understood. I can't guarantee miracles, but if you talk to me about it openly, one thing I can guarantee is that I will understand. I am an experiences school teacher with four university degrees and own a tutoring company where I train other tutors how to be the best tutors for goodness sakes, and yet I still choose independent tutors for my own son for these very reasons. When you want the best for your child, you can't always be objective and rational. That's an unfortunate side effect of being a caring parent. It doesn't mean that you've failed to support them properly - it means that you've succeeded in caring enough to want to make a positive difference. By looking for the right tutor, you've also succeeded in knowing what it will take to get that difference happening.
THE BIGGEST HURDLES WHEN STARTING TUITION
Here's the problem we face. By the time many parents decie to hire a tutor, there is a chance that their child is already well aware that they are struggling, and probably not feeling too good about that. For that reason, there is a chance they may see that getting a tutor is a representation of their failure. They're hearing your voice of logic and reason explaining that everything will be okay, but meanwhile their inner voice is saying "you're such a disappointment now that you need a tutor." For some students, having their first session with a private tutor is almost like having to see a medical specialist for a really humiliating disease. It can be embarrassing and very disempowering for a vulnerable young mind that is at a stage in their life where the way their self-esteem develops will affect them for years to come.
For that reason, the way that your son or daughter views the idea of getting a tutor is crucially important. As I'm sure you've already figured out, it's important that they don't perceive the process as a punishment or an indication of inadequacy. Whilst I can't tell you a perfect formula for how to approach this, what I can tell you is based on the experiences we've had feedback from with hundreds of parents, all in very similar situations to you.
WHAT NOT TO DO
When many parents reach the point where they finally decide that getting a tutor is the right way to go, they actually take the worst possible option available to them. In fact, many of the clients who come to us do so to repair the damage that has already been done by taking this option; they took their child to a class based tutoring centre.
Tutoring centres (or coaching colleges as they are often called) are typically populated by student's that come from cultural backgrounds where obtaining the best possible mark is a mandatory requirement. They often come from families with unreasonably high expectations, where nothing is ever good enough. Either that, or they are gifted students themselves with very high intellectual capacities who attend coaching colleges because they need extra stimuli as they are not being challenged enough at school.
If your child is already outstandingly competent and performs better in a competitive environment, then by all means consider a tutoring centre. Where the student is struggling however and may feel insecure about their weaknesses being on display to those around them; imagine the irreparable damage it has on their self esteem when they are placed in an environment where the kids around them are even more 'high achievers' than at school, so comparatively, they feel even 'dumber'. That is the unfortunate reality of placing a struggling child in among students who are competitive performers and high achievers. It typically does more harm than good.
The reason it is appealing to some parents however is that because of the class approach, tutoring centres can be a cheaper option. By the time that the parents come to us however, the first part of the process is to try to undo the negative view that their child has developed about tutoring thanks to the self-esteem deteriorating effect of the more competitive environment.
The other mistake that parents often make is the value they place on solving the problem. The situation described above is often obvious to many parents who realise that one-on-one in a familiar setting such as the home is the most effective option. Many well-meaning mums and dads that are struggling to keep up with the cost of living, decide to opt for someone 'cheap' and end up with someone who simply doesn't know what they're doing.
If the tutor has the wrong approach, the wrong personality match or does not understand the way in which your child learns best, it is also likely to have disastrous consequences. Just when the student gets their hopes up that maybe, finally, someone will be able to come along that can help them overcome their hurdles, if they end up with the wrong tutor, the only message they get is that there really is no hope for them after all.
You and I can see the more rational picture of course, which is that there is always the option to get another tutor. For a young vulnerable mind however facing a very delicate situation they take very personally, their early experiences with a private tutor can either bring them out of their shell if you get the right tutor, or bury them in it even deeper if you get the wrong one.
Why Teach Abstinence-Only Education?
As a society, we're slowly progressing. We're molting, leaving the Age of Capricorn and entering the Age of Aquarius.
We are in a new age. And now that we've entered it, we need to rid ourselves of antiquated healthcare practices perpetuated by atavistic superstition and dogma.
We need to base our healthcare practices off of science, statistics, and common sense, not ideology.
In short, we need to eradicate abstinence-only education.
I'm wearing my cerebral Kevlar, locked and loaded, and ready for battle.
My commentary isn't meant to inspire ire or jubilance, but rather provide a logical argument against abstinence-only education.
It's time that we, healthcare professionals, hash this out.
Our job is to prevent disease, save lives, and 'do no harm.'
And statistics show, overwhelmingly, that abstinence-only education is positively correlated with teen-age pregnancies and the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases.
Yep, teens exposed to abstinence-only education are more likely to have sex than kids who don't!
Yet, for whatever reason, many high school nurses keep on teaching abstinence-only education, some because they want to, and others because they must.
However, as nurses, we must advocate for our children, as their lives depend on it.
I, personally, couldn't teach abstinence-only education, just like I couldn't teach that the world is flat or that the sun revolves around the Earth. I'm not trying to be an ass, but come on.
Okay, now I'll give you two good reasons why abstinence-only education doesn't work.
Firstly, we're human. We're sexual creatures, and we begin experimenting sexually sometime after puberty -some of us earlier than others.
Secondly, sex is fun. Yep, I said it, we enjoy having sex. And the more we tell teens they shouldn't have sex, the more likely they will.
Why? Well, because they're teenagers and teenagers rebel.
Alright, alright, some of you're probably thinking: "It's against the Bible, my child needs to wait till marriage, and if you teach them comprehensive sexual education they'll be more promiscuous." Well, that argument is absurd. It just isn't true.
Once again, we're human, and we're all sinners.
Go ahead, just ask St. Augustine.
If you would like to read more of my articles like this, please visit http://www.mightynurse.com.
We are in a new age. And now that we've entered it, we need to rid ourselves of antiquated healthcare practices perpetuated by atavistic superstition and dogma.
We need to base our healthcare practices off of science, statistics, and common sense, not ideology.
In short, we need to eradicate abstinence-only education.
I'm wearing my cerebral Kevlar, locked and loaded, and ready for battle.
My commentary isn't meant to inspire ire or jubilance, but rather provide a logical argument against abstinence-only education.
It's time that we, healthcare professionals, hash this out.
Our job is to prevent disease, save lives, and 'do no harm.'
And statistics show, overwhelmingly, that abstinence-only education is positively correlated with teen-age pregnancies and the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases.
Yep, teens exposed to abstinence-only education are more likely to have sex than kids who don't!
Yet, for whatever reason, many high school nurses keep on teaching abstinence-only education, some because they want to, and others because they must.
However, as nurses, we must advocate for our children, as their lives depend on it.
I, personally, couldn't teach abstinence-only education, just like I couldn't teach that the world is flat or that the sun revolves around the Earth. I'm not trying to be an ass, but come on.
Okay, now I'll give you two good reasons why abstinence-only education doesn't work.
Firstly, we're human. We're sexual creatures, and we begin experimenting sexually sometime after puberty -some of us earlier than others.
Secondly, sex is fun. Yep, I said it, we enjoy having sex. And the more we tell teens they shouldn't have sex, the more likely they will.
Why? Well, because they're teenagers and teenagers rebel.
Alright, alright, some of you're probably thinking: "It's against the Bible, my child needs to wait till marriage, and if you teach them comprehensive sexual education they'll be more promiscuous." Well, that argument is absurd. It just isn't true.
Once again, we're human, and we're all sinners.
Go ahead, just ask St. Augustine.
If you would like to read more of my articles like this, please visit http://www.mightynurse.com.
How to Deal With Social Anxiety at School
Social Anxiety
Social anxiety is a form of anxiety where a person is extremely shy, nervous, or self-conscious about themselves when in social situations. People with social anxiety worry about how they are perceived by others, being judged by others, making mistakes in social situations, and performing in front of others (e.g., answering questions). There is often a general feeling of insecurity about being around others.
Social Anxiety at School
Social anxiety can be very detrimental to a student at school. It interferes with a child's ability to make friends with peers and to take part in the process of learning.
One form of social anxiety often seen at school in younger students is selective mutism. Selectively mute students are capable of speaking and often speak at home and in front of family members; however, they refuse to talk to others in social situations because they have feelings of insecurity, are afraid of speaking in front of others, and are afraid being criticized.
Students with social anxiety do not participate in class. This includes refusal to raise a hand to answer questions, not responding when called upon to answer questions, and being afraid to ask a question when help is needed. Lack of participation negatively impacts academic performance, as teachers have more difficulty monitoring understanding and progress.
Socially anxious students isolate themselves from others by sitting alone at lunch, not playing with other students at recess, and not participating in extracurricular activities such as clubs and sports. These students are often on the fringes of larger groups, wanting to join in, but too full of fear and uncertainty to take that risk. This self isolation results in missed opportunities for students to learn and fine tune their social skills. By not participating with peer activities these students miss opportunities to learn conflict resolution, problem-solving, negotiation, and sportsmanship skills.
When students have a lot of anxiety about being in social situations they may avoid coming to school. These students may feign illness or they may actually have physical symptoms such as feeling nauseous, dizzy, light headed, or shaky, and they interpret them as being physically sick rather than being manifestations of their anxiety. Younger students may throw tantrums or act out in order to avoid going to school as they may not have the language skills or wherewithal to identify, interpret, and explain their emotions. Older students may skip school, leave school after getting there, or drop out.
Treatment in School
Students with social anxiety tend to avoid social interactions and situations that cause them to feel uncomfortable. However, avoiding these types of situations only allows the fear to grow and become stronger. These students need to learn how to control their irrational fears so that they can become comfortable when around others.
Treatment at school typically involves some form of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Students need to gradually increase their level of comfortableness around others. They may need to start by having positive interactions with one person in the school and then slowly increase the amount of people and the demands. As they become more comfortable, they are able to gain control over their emotional and confidence in themselves. This process is gradual and may take quite awhile; however it is well worth the effort.
David Pino school psychologist has worked in education for the last 20 years. He has significant experience and expertise with learning disabilities, psychological evaluations, behavior, and special education.
Social Anxiety
Social anxiety is a form of anxiety where a person is extremely shy, nervous, or self-conscious about themselves when in social situations. People with social anxiety worry about how they are perceived by others, being judged by others, making mistakes in social situations, and performing in front of others (e.g., answering questions). There is often a general feeling of insecurity about being around others.
Social Anxiety at School
Social anxiety can be very detrimental to a student at school. It interferes with a child's ability to make friends with peers and to take part in the process of learning.
One form of social anxiety often seen at school in younger students is selective mutism. Selectively mute students are capable of speaking and often speak at home and in front of family members; however, they refuse to talk to others in social situations because they have feelings of insecurity, are afraid of speaking in front of others, and are afraid being criticized.
Students with social anxiety do not participate in class. This includes refusal to raise a hand to answer questions, not responding when called upon to answer questions, and being afraid to ask a question when help is needed. Lack of participation negatively impacts academic performance, as teachers have more difficulty monitoring understanding and progress.
Socially anxious students isolate themselves from others by sitting alone at lunch, not playing with other students at recess, and not participating in extracurricular activities such as clubs and sports. These students are often on the fringes of larger groups, wanting to join in, but too full of fear and uncertainty to take that risk. This self isolation results in missed opportunities for students to learn and fine tune their social skills. By not participating with peer activities these students miss opportunities to learn conflict resolution, problem-solving, negotiation, and sportsmanship skills.
When students have a lot of anxiety about being in social situations they may avoid coming to school. These students may feign illness or they may actually have physical symptoms such as feeling nauseous, dizzy, light headed, or shaky, and they interpret them as being physically sick rather than being manifestations of their anxiety. Younger students may throw tantrums or act out in order to avoid going to school as they may not have the language skills or wherewithal to identify, interpret, and explain their emotions. Older students may skip school, leave school after getting there, or drop out.
Treatment in School
Students with social anxiety tend to avoid social interactions and situations that cause them to feel uncomfortable. However, avoiding these types of situations only allows the fear to grow and become stronger. These students need to learn how to control their irrational fears so that they can become comfortable when around others.
Treatment at school typically involves some form of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Students need to gradually increase their level of comfortableness around others. They may need to start by having positive interactions with one person in the school and then slowly increase the amount of people and the demands. As they become more comfortable, they are able to gain control over their emotional and confidence in themselves. This process is gradual and may take quite awhile; however it is well worth the effort.
David Pino school psychologist has worked in education for the last 20 years. He has significant experience and expertise with learning disabilities, psychological evaluations, behavior, and special education.
Overcoming Fear After Having Traumatic Experiences
Traumatic experiences provoke alterations in your psychological system, and cause behavioral abnormalities. After having many traumatic experiences in life you have no courage to go on, you are always afraid of everything, and you cannot feel safe even after having more than many guarantees that you are really safe.
Even if you don't suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder, after having traumatic experiences that negatively marked your life you tend to be paralyzed by fear in many situations. You are unable to trust your own judgment after losing your self-confidence.
Overcoming fear after having traumatic experiences is very difficult. Depending on the type of experiences you had and depending on your personality and life biography, these traumatic experiences can negatively affect your life and your behavior forever.
Today you can overcome all fears thanks to the discoveries of the psychiatrist and psychologist Carl Jung, and thanks to my discoveries based on his method of dream interpretation.
Your dreams are produced by the unconscious mind, which has a divine origin and proves God's existence into practice. Today science can explain religious mysteries, and religion can teach us the real meaning of scientific truths.
The unconscious mind will help you read people's minds, predict the future, and change your destiny based on your attitude. You will learn how to overcome every fear with wisdom.
You will be able to meet people you can trust, and also help everyone around you follow the same process of psychotherapy and mind empowerment you will follow through dream therapy, which also works like spiritual purification because it helps you become a better person.
You will feel safe with people who will follow dream therapy like you because you'll know that they are following the divine guidance and understanding the importance of wisdom and goodness.
When someone starts follows dream therapy, this person understands that there is nothing positive on violence and selfishness. Everyone passes through a deep process of transformation, learning how to eliminate their wild tendencies and attain a higher level of knowledge.
This comprehension lasts for life. After acquiring consciousness of what is negative and after understanding the importance of goodness, nobody forgets this lesson. You will be surrounded by people who will understand these truths because your friends will desire to follow dream therapy like you.
This is very common. Whenever someone understands the real importance of dreams and how helpful they are, somebody else near them pays attention to their progress and cares about following dream therapy too. You will be with people who will follow your example.
On the other hand, after understanding the functioning of the human brain and the human behavior, you'll never believe in illusions. You'll remember that all human beings have inherited an absurd and evil anti-conscience, which is our primitive conscience.
The anti-conscience didn't evolve like our human conscience. Whenever it manages to invade our conscience, we listen to its absurd thoughts. You will eliminate your anti-conscience through consciousness, but you'll know that other people are influenced or always controlled by their anti-conscience.
You will never look at human beings the way you did before knowing what exists into the human brain. You'll know what defines the human behavior. You'll understand many things only by observing other people's reactions. After having this vision, you won't fall into traps that ignorant people cannot see.
Therefore, you will overcome your fears based on the knowledge you'll have. This means that you will know who is dangerous and why they are dangerous for you.
You will realize that you must be afraid of many people and many situations in life. The more you'll learn about the human nature and the negative influence of the anti-conscience, more afraid you will be of most people.
However, this fear won't provoke paralysis, but work as a protection. You must be afraid when you are facing dangerous situations. Your fear protects you from making mistakes due to negligence and distraction.
After transforming your personality and eliminating the traumas of the past, your fears won't be based on ignorance, but based on knowledge. They will protectively advise you that you are in danger. At the same time, you'll know that you are safe because you'll know how to behave in all situations, and you'll always avoid what is bad.
The process of consciousness carried on by the divine unconscious mind in dreams opens your mind for a new dimension. You can see everything that is hidden behind the camouflage of hypocrisy and indifference. You can also understand that there are better levels of knowledge.
You know that spiritual perfection is salvation because it helps you solve all problems based on goodness. You attain another conscious level, far from the miserable limitations of the animal life.
You stop thinking like ignorant human beings. You understand the real beauty of art, religion, and philosophy. You know that only what is perfect is complete. You are not afraid of any challenge. You always know that you will surely triumph.
The satisfaction you'll feel with your behavior and with the superior personality you'll have after following dream therapy will give you a tremendous advantage that most people don't have. Most people make many mistakes and regret having done what they did numerous times.
You'll never make mistakes. You'll always act with wisdom.
This advantage will help you always feel safe and self-confident. You won't be afraid to show your real face to the world. You'll never need to wear a mask. You'll be glad because you are superior and so different from the ignorant world.
You'll never be ashamed of yourself. You'll always be proud of your actions.
Of course, you won't be vain. You will be sorry for the world and desire to save everyone from suffering.
You will also find the right person for you. This is a gift. Most people never find their perfect match because they never transform their personality. In order to be able to find your perfect match you must stop being controlled by your anti-conscience. You will have the capacity to discover the right person for you because you'll eliminate your wild side.
Dream therapy helps you find your perfect match or improve your current relationship. Your partner will follow the same process of consciousness, and you will have a perfect relationship.
The unconscious mind always helps all dreamers discover their perfect match, even if they follow dream therapy because they are mentally ill, because they want to get rid of their anger, or for any other reason not related to the intention to have a relationship. This happens because love is the most important matter of our lives.
On the other hand, love and craziness are closely connected. The unconscious mind always cares about helping everyone find the right person for them so that they may preserve their sanity.
This means that you will have the support of a person you can really trust. Your perfect match will always be a loyal partner and love you for life.
The unconscious mind helps you find completion. Completion is total satisfaction in life; satisfaction with yourself and with the life you lead.
Since you will be with the ideal person for you and you will be glad with yourself, you will be in a privileged position. This fact will give you permanent good mood. You will begin a new life, totally different from the life you had before.
Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung's research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.
Learn more at: http://www.scientificdreaminterpretation.com
Traumatic experiences provoke alterations in your psychological system, and cause behavioral abnormalities. After having many traumatic experiences in life you have no courage to go on, you are always afraid of everything, and you cannot feel safe even after having more than many guarantees that you are really safe.
Even if you don't suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder, after having traumatic experiences that negatively marked your life you tend to be paralyzed by fear in many situations. You are unable to trust your own judgment after losing your self-confidence.
Overcoming fear after having traumatic experiences is very difficult. Depending on the type of experiences you had and depending on your personality and life biography, these traumatic experiences can negatively affect your life and your behavior forever.
Today you can overcome all fears thanks to the discoveries of the psychiatrist and psychologist Carl Jung, and thanks to my discoveries based on his method of dream interpretation.
Your dreams are produced by the unconscious mind, which has a divine origin and proves God's existence into practice. Today science can explain religious mysteries, and religion can teach us the real meaning of scientific truths.
The unconscious mind will help you read people's minds, predict the future, and change your destiny based on your attitude. You will learn how to overcome every fear with wisdom.
You will be able to meet people you can trust, and also help everyone around you follow the same process of psychotherapy and mind empowerment you will follow through dream therapy, which also works like spiritual purification because it helps you become a better person.
You will feel safe with people who will follow dream therapy like you because you'll know that they are following the divine guidance and understanding the importance of wisdom and goodness.
When someone starts follows dream therapy, this person understands that there is nothing positive on violence and selfishness. Everyone passes through a deep process of transformation, learning how to eliminate their wild tendencies and attain a higher level of knowledge.
This comprehension lasts for life. After acquiring consciousness of what is negative and after understanding the importance of goodness, nobody forgets this lesson. You will be surrounded by people who will understand these truths because your friends will desire to follow dream therapy like you.
This is very common. Whenever someone understands the real importance of dreams and how helpful they are, somebody else near them pays attention to their progress and cares about following dream therapy too. You will be with people who will follow your example.
On the other hand, after understanding the functioning of the human brain and the human behavior, you'll never believe in illusions. You'll remember that all human beings have inherited an absurd and evil anti-conscience, which is our primitive conscience.
The anti-conscience didn't evolve like our human conscience. Whenever it manages to invade our conscience, we listen to its absurd thoughts. You will eliminate your anti-conscience through consciousness, but you'll know that other people are influenced or always controlled by their anti-conscience.
You will never look at human beings the way you did before knowing what exists into the human brain. You'll know what defines the human behavior. You'll understand many things only by observing other people's reactions. After having this vision, you won't fall into traps that ignorant people cannot see.
Therefore, you will overcome your fears based on the knowledge you'll have. This means that you will know who is dangerous and why they are dangerous for you.
You will realize that you must be afraid of many people and many situations in life. The more you'll learn about the human nature and the negative influence of the anti-conscience, more afraid you will be of most people.
However, this fear won't provoke paralysis, but work as a protection. You must be afraid when you are facing dangerous situations. Your fear protects you from making mistakes due to negligence and distraction.
After transforming your personality and eliminating the traumas of the past, your fears won't be based on ignorance, but based on knowledge. They will protectively advise you that you are in danger. At the same time, you'll know that you are safe because you'll know how to behave in all situations, and you'll always avoid what is bad.
The process of consciousness carried on by the divine unconscious mind in dreams opens your mind for a new dimension. You can see everything that is hidden behind the camouflage of hypocrisy and indifference. You can also understand that there are better levels of knowledge.
You know that spiritual perfection is salvation because it helps you solve all problems based on goodness. You attain another conscious level, far from the miserable limitations of the animal life.
You stop thinking like ignorant human beings. You understand the real beauty of art, religion, and philosophy. You know that only what is perfect is complete. You are not afraid of any challenge. You always know that you will surely triumph.
The satisfaction you'll feel with your behavior and with the superior personality you'll have after following dream therapy will give you a tremendous advantage that most people don't have. Most people make many mistakes and regret having done what they did numerous times.
You'll never make mistakes. You'll always act with wisdom.
This advantage will help you always feel safe and self-confident. You won't be afraid to show your real face to the world. You'll never need to wear a mask. You'll be glad because you are superior and so different from the ignorant world.
You'll never be ashamed of yourself. You'll always be proud of your actions.
Of course, you won't be vain. You will be sorry for the world and desire to save everyone from suffering.
You will also find the right person for you. This is a gift. Most people never find their perfect match because they never transform their personality. In order to be able to find your perfect match you must stop being controlled by your anti-conscience. You will have the capacity to discover the right person for you because you'll eliminate your wild side.
Dream therapy helps you find your perfect match or improve your current relationship. Your partner will follow the same process of consciousness, and you will have a perfect relationship.
The unconscious mind always helps all dreamers discover their perfect match, even if they follow dream therapy because they are mentally ill, because they want to get rid of their anger, or for any other reason not related to the intention to have a relationship. This happens because love is the most important matter of our lives.
On the other hand, love and craziness are closely connected. The unconscious mind always cares about helping everyone find the right person for them so that they may preserve their sanity.
This means that you will have the support of a person you can really trust. Your perfect match will always be a loyal partner and love you for life.
The unconscious mind helps you find completion. Completion is total satisfaction in life; satisfaction with yourself and with the life you lead.
Since you will be with the ideal person for you and you will be glad with yourself, you will be in a privileged position. This fact will give you permanent good mood. You will begin a new life, totally different from the life you had before.
Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung's research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.
Learn more at: http://www.scientificdreaminterpretation.com
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